Every moment and every day, we have to make choices based on one of two things: love or fear.

These two opposing forces have fascinated me for as long as I can remember.

Since I was a child, I have experienced intense fear and anxiety. These experiences pushed me to question if there was a way of living and viewing the world beyond the confines of fear.

I started to observe my fear and I noticed where there was fear, love was absent. When I was taken over by fear, I was not connected to the love within, I did not feel loved, and I viewed the world as completely separate from me.

When I began to consciously cultivate the love within, realize my connection to everyone and everything, and focus on love every day, everywhere, I noticed the fear and anxiety dissipating.


All fear, whether conscious or unconscious, is fear of separation.

Fear is hatred, shame, separation, not good enough, not belonging, not accepted, not at home. Fear is closed off and alone. Fear is resistance to love. Fear is of the mind. Fear is something we have learned over time.

When we are taken over by fear, we are in the grip of the ego, the separate self. We feel cut off from the rest of the world. We feel isolated. We fear what is different. We fear the unknown. We fear discomfort. We fear pain. We fear being alone.


Every last one of us wants, craves, desires, needs love.

Just like we need air to live, we need love to survive and to thrive.

Love is connection, wholeness, oneness. Love is acceptance, compassion, and having a right to be here now, as we are. Love is of the heart. Love is what we were born with. Love is why we are here.

Love is love is love is love.

When we stand rooted in love, we are empowered to choose connection, courage, authenticity, and freedom. We are empowered to face fear and expand beyond old limits. We are together, we belong, we are at home. Love is our source. Love is what we are.

How bold one gets when one is sure of being loved.

Sigmund Freud

Love Over Fear

In any circumstance, in any situation, wherever you are, whoever you are with, it’s a conscious practice every moment to choose love or fear in how you think, see, speak, and act. It’s a choice to operate from a place of love or from a place of fear. It’s a choice to think thoughts that create peace or war. It’s a choice to view the world as separate or interconnected.

Our fear is not the enemy. Of course our fear helps us survive in this world. Rather than banishing our fear and making it into the enemy, we need to show our fear some love. We need to show up in the face of fear with love.

It’s up to us to consciously, wakefully, purposefully and powerfully choose love.

Love over fear.

Compassion over hatred.

Unity over divisiveness.

Expansiveness over smallness.

It’s up to us to wake up,

and to live and love fully, beyond the limits of fear.

The power of love is greater than the force of fear.

So let it be.

Surrender to love.

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life. 

John Lennon

Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life.

Marianne Williamson